Do you know the biggest difference between a guy that gets lots of success with women and the one who doesn’t?

It is really simple. The successful guy meets a lot of women. The unsuccessful guy doesn’t meet very many women.

Day in the Life of Unsuccessful Guy

Gets up and makes his way to work. He takes a bus and a train. He reads the newspaper on his way. He grabs a coffee in Starbucks before he gets to his office. At his office he smiles and says hi to the cute receptionist. Then he moves on. He isn’t sure how he should take it further with her. It is kind of funny at work. During the day he has several meetings. Some with clients. He leaves the office for an external meeting with a client. On his way he gets lunch in a restaurant. He also pops into the bookstore to grab a book on his way. At the client’s office he sees a girl waiting in the reception while he is there. Cute too. After work he gets the train and bus back home. He’s kind of tired so decides to chill and watch TV all evening. He talks to one of his buddies about going out at the weekend and spends an hour checking his Facebook. Pretty soon it is time to go to sleep and start the whole process again.

Did you notice how many opportunities this guy had to meet women? If you ask him, he would have said “NONE”. I know because I’ve coached many guys with similar daily routines. They will tell you that their lives don’t bring them into touch with women.

I’m about to put that to the test…

Day in the Life of Successful Guy

Get’s up and makes his way to work. He takes a bus and a train. He sees a girl at bus stop, cute. So he chats to her. On the train it is cramped, he is standing next to a girl who bumps into him constantly. He makes fun of her for it. They have a chuckle about it and talk throughout the ride. He goes to grab his coffee at Starbucks, he flirts with the barista. He’s already got her number. He sees her nearly every day after all. As he’s walking out of Starbucks he sees one of the most attractive girls he’s seen in the week walking down the road next to him. He strikes up a conversation. Makes her laugh. They stop and chat for 10 minutes and he takes her number saying he’ll give her a call some time. He gets to work. Winks at the secretary and texts her a ‘covert’ message as he walks to his office. They’ve hooked up a few times, but he keeps it discrete. It is work after all.

Fast forward to the evening.

Instead of going home he goes out to socialize with some friends. There are a couple of cute girls on the table next to him. He strikes up a conversation, they join his friends on their table and they all have a great night. They all switch numbers to catch up again at the weekend. He gets home and checks his Facebook for a few minutes before he crashes. There are a whole bunch of friend adds from women he’s met and notifications from comments. He skims through a couple and responds for the girls he’s most interested in. Then its time to sleep and start the whole process all over again.

Are you getting the picture here?

We all live in a world of opportunity. Every minute of the day there are people around us. Some people take advantage of that. Others don’t. Some guys decide to be social. Others decide to watch TV and read Facebook at home.

The decisions we make create our lives. We have the choice. We decide.

Of course the real reason that unsuccessful men don’t see these opportunities is fear. They don’t know how to approach or meet women. They don’t even see it as possible. They would tell you that the ‘successful guy’ is different to them. It couldn’t be further from the truth.

The successful guy has a social attitude and social skills. More importantly he has developed approaching women skills. He knows how to start up conversations that work wherever he is. Because he has learned how it works and practiced.

Would you like to learn how to approach women?

Here are some of the things you learn as you develop ‘Approaching Women Skills’:

1. Techniques to overcome fear of rejection
2. Mindset towards meeting women that enable you to see all the opportunities
3. Ways to start conversations that get positive responses
4. Avoiding common approaches to start conversations that get negative responses
5. ‘Canned’ routines called ‘openers’
6. Structures to help you always have something good to say